Down low dating
To them, as to many blacks, that equates to being inherently masculine.
In his book Beyond the Down Low: Sex, Lies and Denial in Black America, Keith Boykin states that secret homosexual relations are not unique to African American men, and in fact occur in many societies and among all races.
There have always been men – black and white – who have had secret sexual lives with men.
But the creation of an organized, underground subculture largely made up of black men who otherwise live straight lives is a phenomenon of the last decade...
Is this liaison an affair with one or both of you cheating on another partner?
Nearly all these stories connected the down-low to the HIV/AIDS epidemic in the African-American community.
According to a study published in the Journal of Bisexuality, "[t]he Down Low is a lifestyle predominately practiced by young, urban Black men who have sex with other men and women, yet do not identify as gay or bisexual." In this context, "being on the Down Low" is more than just men having sex with men in secret, or a variant of closeted homosexuality or bisexuality — it is a sexual identity that is, at least partly, defined by its "cult of masculinity" and its rejection of what is perceived as white culture (including white LGBT culture) and terms.
Rejecting a gay culture they perceive as white and effeminate, many black men have settled on a new identity, with its own vocabulary and customs and its own name: Down Low.
He argued that the "Down Low" black bisexual is often described negatively as a duplicitous heterosexual man whose behaviors threaten the black community.
Alternatively, the "Brokeback" white bisexual (when seen as bisexual at all) is often described in pitying language as a victimized homosexual man who is forced into the closet by the heterosexist society around him.
Secret love affairs are the stuff of fairy tales aren’t they?