Dating younger man 20 years
I'm very glad I'm just an old dude, not a gay cowboy. He obliged, and as we clinked glasses, I guessed he was in his early 30s.
To me, it was much easier to make everything strictly between friends.
What has been made disturbingly clear to me, is that if you dare put one foot outside the circle of acceptable, mainstream "normal" behaviour, it really messes with people and they simply can't help tell you about it.
I can't imagine what it must be like to be a good way outside the circle, like the young "Gay Cowboy", NSW rodeo rider Joshua Goyne, for example.
Apart from the obvious thought that if no-one wants to say it, then don't say it, the disapproval is thicker than a tub of French anti-ageing night cream."Yarbrough's age shouldn't matter." Clearly it does. There'd been divorces, new partners, lots of the usual drama over the years.
"A 42-year-old man dating a 33-year-old is far from taboo. When I chimed in with my story, I might as well have announced my new life as a serial killer. My phone was passed around in a long awkward silence, then literally thrown back at me. Apparently it was that young women are possible "husband stealers". I'll tell some story and she'll say, "that was when I was four," which continues to amaze us both.
THE PERSON, NOT THE AGEI once said it's the person, not the age, I love and was told, quite heatedly, that "she wouldn't be the same person" if she wasn't younger.